She gave me a little insight into what’s going on with her. Since he has wanted me for 24 years ya know. I asked him where was this coming from we’re both Catholic and I’m 40. He ignored all texts and calls from me. Really looking for some advice there’s this guy and we were really close friends in our teens and twenties I had a huge crush on him life happened and we grew apart for awhile. We then had a small fight and he told me his feelings for me come and go and he’s confused about his feelings because his ex recently contacted him again. We text and talk daily. I’m sorry but you just described it as typical male behavior, as my previous two ex’s broke up with me for the exact same reason and they were female. YOU will make your value increase over ANY OTHER parter or potential partner your ex may, or may HAVE HAD In the time you’ve gone completely no contact and served him or her with SHEER RADIO SILENCE. No matter how much I enjoyed our conversations, I had to put an end to that because we had different values with which I certainly disagreed. In my specific case, one day, seemingly out of the blue, MY EX of 10 YEARS broke up with me and kicked me out of our home of 8 years that we shared (for a girl 22 years younger than we are) and appeared to never even LOOK BACK. I love him with all my heart. Are a few minutes of your day worth attracting love? I never judged him because he can do whatever he wants with his life as I’m doing the same with mine. I really have strong feelings for him and have for a long time but idk if this was to fill time (which this was his first weekend off in over 2 months and he called me to spend time with) if he’s just seeing if he still has an in, or if he really still wants something and things just got messed up. I’m really sorry you’re dealing with this though, it’s never fun to feel like a man isn’t making you a priority. After those two weeks he was occupied with plans for 5 weekends. My perfect match, a perfect disaster. Had a relationship for 8 years out of nowhere he just stopped calling and spending the night.6 months later he shows up but I was unable to see him. Self love like that will get you an incredible relationship in the future. It’s frustrating and enough to drive you crazy wondering WTF. I know his ex wife really hurt him so his barriers were high. He was in love with me He came back end of April. Met a guy, long distance. And I’m the best for him. If we take into consideration only the first 12 months, a total of 86 dumpers broke no contact and contacted their exes after 7.16 months on average. He show up the next day after 9 months. We were compatible in sex and for the first time I felt I could be myself in such intimate situation with a stranger. ..And, usually love blocks are behind why guys get flaky, pull away and then act hot and cold with you. I’m thinking of writing him a closure letter and letting him know he can’t do this to me. I did, and it confirmed the pregnancy. Should I just hold myself, and never text him first? Our chemistry aligned and felt perfect…to me. Our conversations were kinda boring to me because he always said the same things. He just left. Can I have your opinion on this matter, please? Broke up this last November didn’t talk for a couple months started talking again. After that I have not heard of him anymore and its been a month now. I also emailed and called him so many times. What reason could she possibley have to want to talk to me now? Find out the 7 sneaky blocks keeping you from manifesting an amazing, happy, connected relationship and exactly what you can do about them, starting immediately. Hi Chris, Me and my ex broke up 3 months ago, after a month of no contact he reached out to meet up and we met three weeks later cause I was busy. He says he doesn’t see a future with me right now and that he also won’t be in any other relationships. You may be asking: “Why did my ex girlfriend text me after 6 months?” When a woman contacts you a long time after the break up, you are excited. Met a guy online who in the 3rd date told me he didn’t want a relationship preferred to stay single. He said it was a friends party that he went to in New Years and she was a friend. I want you to file for divorce. Then he will realize that it is HE who did YOU wrong by leaving you…AND EVENTUALLY will come back, and when he does, you have worked on and improved yourself so much without him in your life, that you are again the very person he was attracted to in the beginning of your first relationship…wiTh HIM. My situation is similar yet slightly different. So, it’s up to you to decide what you want. We both know we have a great connection, like we’ve always known each other. Usually his later contact occurs the moment… no the very SECOND… that you’ve finally moved on and really quit thinking about him (I wish there was a way to fake it, but you can’t). So my ex boyfriend left me 6 months ago for another girl and suddenly today he facebooks me and asks how im doing and what im doing at university etc? This guy was a cool dude, but after six months we had an argument about him spending time with me after not seeing each other for a week. Any advice? Mean while he started distancing himself and I somehow found out that his ex was pregnant with his child. I must have said something about closure because he said “I will give you closure when I am able” and that he would “call me in the morning”. I had a friends sitting in my porch talking and he pulls in unannounced. That he made the biggest mistake of his life, that he let the love of his life pass him by and that he’ll call me again. He reached out to me on linkedin and asked me out. He always was able to talk to me about it, and even break down in front of me about it. He had this ex though. Why on earth does he keep bothering with me? This is particularly likely if you’ve gone no contact with him or have been ignoring his communication. I guess I just don’t see why he would do this. He got super drunk would not listen, drove and ended pulled over by police DUI, found out next day. If your relationship ended badly, he might have felt afraid to contact you up until this point. I left, I don’t know what to do with myself and where to go to. Plus, this was a bit of a shock to me so I was really upset. He’s the one that wanted to be serious, he’s the one that pursued and initiated everything. He had taken pics of me from his balcony while I was in the parking lot. He came back a couple of months ago wanting to talk again.. we Would text on a daily basis and spent a few weekends together, met his friends and had a good time. It took me around 6-7 months of NC to reach that point of indifference. I managed to calm myself enough to sleep and when morning came, no call. He lives with this other woman and I know about it but he would always lie about always be out of down working when I knew it was all lies. Why would anyone in their right mind say that and then the following day break up? I just said thank you. Telling me he’s sorry, asking about my life, ect. I know he knows I sent him a message but WTF? Once he realizes that “sowing his oats” wasn’t everything it was cracked up to be, he comes crawling back hoping for an ego boost or potential reconciliation. By splendidcafe, 9 years ago on Breaking up. I’ve been reading a lot on this type of both gender behavior and realized that it isn’t the gender but the nature of the person. And as this has been going on for 4 months now, will things ever change to how they used to be? The minute I saw him, I knew he was the one. Reply Within three weeks, we ended. I flipped out he said se was just a friend like I have guy friends. They will NOT forget about you. So rude! He left me with no explanation. we truly were happy and I have him all the freedom in the world but he still felt trapped and scared of the marriage. I explained I wasn’t leaving because I want to break up I just need to process what happened. 3 months of not contact he likes a picture I’m tagged in. We end up back together. Remember i have known him so I know how he is. My ex just texted me today and I am completely shocked. I figured friends would be there for one another. Same with calls. My opinion. If you want to reply then go for it, if not, then that’s up to you. Went nuts. I’m just lost and venting. We kept a casual conversation but most of the time it was sex-related topics. THEN ghosts afterward. As a woman, I have to let you “men,” know when they “ghost” a lady, they are primarily focused on avoiding their own emotional discomfort and they aren’t thinking about how it makes the other person feel.“Looking through the lens of a coward, passive withdrawal from dating seems like the easiest and nicest route. I lost about 8 Kgs in less than 3 months. He told me he loves, admires and respects me more than anyone but we should stay broken up because I want to get married, my religion isn’t important enough to me and he’s right wing conservative and my friends and family wont accept that. Everyone could feel,see the energy between us. It’s been about 5 months since I last talked to someone I considered a best friend of sorts with feelings involved. He has not opened my message yet but duh? THAT guy (you know, the one who rocks you world and you miss like crazy) only reaches out to you once a month. Please help me try to make sense of this so I can move on. There was instant attraction and we were very similar. Then he has no choice but to see that and knowing that you can either move on, if you are deeply hurt like I was about him jumping into something so fast with someone else..OR you can reconcile. I listened to him sincerely and thought that I WAS going to give him a different experience. Good luck with him. I hear that they push people away and shut them out and are very short with them, but if any guy out there could possibly relate…I would really appreciate the insight. He did this knowing that I’m really really unwell at the moment too. I signed up for your news letter just now ???? He explained himself and things went well but I wasn’t just going to take him back it’s not that easy especially after breaking things off with me.. The special ‘it’ that exists between two people is a rare animal indeed and is perhaps the one universal state we all crave. He agreed he thought things were going somewhere and apologized stating after my last comment about being hurt he supposedly thought I was not wanting to talk to him anymore, a long with him being out of town for awhile for work and his crazy schedule (he does work 80 plus hours a week sometimes) so apprehensively I went to dinner we had an amazing time and he treated me great just like always (if I even try to open my own car door he stops me runs around and opens it) he made the comment when I tried to help pay for dinner that that’s an insult and it’s his job to take care of me. after i broke up w my ex, we used to text quite frequently for like 2 weeks. We are both 61 yo. He said he wasn’t going anywhere. Yeah its probably just an ego boost at this point. Now. Also your progress will not be linear. Well a few days later I find out he’s all of a sudden in such a happy relationship from fb. Are men really this cowardly?! Still didn’t want anyone I loved him he was gonna be my last. We used to talk every minute of everyday up until he got himself a girlfriend around this time last year. He stayed in bed for about an hour, got out, sat on the sofa and then said that he needs to ask me something. Next day I give in. We met up again. Over the past two weeks, he’s been online on his Xbox as soon as he gets home from work and recently he’s been liking tweets everyday. Just pure chemistry, no words needed because as soon as we touched (and kissed), we knew how to act with each other. months of no contact i felt like i’ve already lost my feelings for him. When a guy dumps you, you lose your power in the relationship. after having been through what goes down in history as the WORST breakup of my entire life. And men think WE’RE crazy?! Their own low self esteem makes them suspicious and doubting. He told me something along the lines of (I only remember bits and pieces so bare with me): “I think it’s best if we cool things down for right now, I have to put all of my attention on my dad and if that means I’ll have to make up for it later, I have to do that, You’re a good woman *me*, that loyalty isn’t lost on me, I refuse to be depressed over this anymore” By ‘this’ he was referring to the fact that he can’t give me attention and he felt guilty or something. You are a truly good woman, and don’t deserve the hurt you have suffered. Guess which one I’m trying to believe? I was devasted for months, but now I decided I freaked out and he did too. 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